FIX: Allocate time in your schedule to do some soul searching and invite your partner to do the same. Meditate, take long walks in nature, visit your friends, a museum, a new gallery or cool place you’ve been dying to see – even if you’ll feel inadequate or lonely at first, you will grow fonder of it with time. One of the most creative and empowering exercises is to take yourself on a date, every week, and use those 2 or 3 hours solely to do something that feeds your mind and your personality. Keep a journal if you must, but mostly, don’t cheat! Alone time is quality time, most of the time. FIX: Consider the elephant in the room and instead of trying to eliminate it, try to emphasize it. Are these people really as bad as they seem? Maybe your partner’s mom is no interior decor genius, nor a great cook, neither a master debater, but you have to look past these details at the way she raised her son.Because that’s what truly matters, and how her attitude reflects in the good ways he treats you. However, considering the scenario his or her parents are truly maleficent, disrespectful or simply unfriendly, you are not obliged to sit with them, or welcome them in your life like you otherwise would. Your partner also should hear about your feelings – you are together in this and they are supposed to defend you, stand up for you and intervene wherever his family grows too weary. FIX: Some would joke here: Why don’t you start smoking yourself? Well, firstly, because you don’t have that habit, secondly because you shouldn’t feel forced to change your lifestyle over a person, yes, not even over a person you love. On the other hand, they obviously won’t find it easy to quit just because of you. Remembering chain-smoker Carrie Bradshaw aimlessly trying to quit in the dawn of her relationship with Aidan is a vivid example of that sort of a situation. People change only if THEY want to change, so it’s not your responsibility to teach them this lesson. Talk to your partner and try to reach an agreement. For instance, if they’re smoking, they should smoke only on the balcony or the kitchen. If they can’t get enough of the bottle, you’re not obliged to join them, they can get time off with their friends. Essentially, if they have a drug addiction issue, it’s your own health you also have to consider, emotionally and physically, and also whether you can truly help them (or want to). FIX: You may not have been used to sharing everything with a partner before. This is especially difficult if you’re an only child, who never had to split things with a sibling. You may literally hate the way they leave their clothes on the floor (and never pick them up) before hitting the shower. You may find gross how they forget to wash the dishes for days. On the other hand, you might feel uneasy with the way they speak on the phone too loud, want to make small talk when you have nothing to say, or take up space in your already small studio. Essentially, you may feel like seeing this person day and night is too much, and there’s nothing wrong with that, some of us simply need more space in our lives and in our beds. Moving in together is a serious decision and you should abstain from doing it just to make rent payments easier on you. Consider the pros and cons of living together in opposition to living alone. Listen to what your partner has to say and try not to compete with them on claiming what’s yours and what’s theirs to change. If you can’t afford living alone, define clear rules for your personal space and theirs, and perhaps work a bit on the way the apartment’s laid out. With a bit of creativity and some simple interior design tips, you can declutter your living space and be able to even create your own comfortable nest, where no one will bother you.
Hote agar paas toh koyi shararat karte.
Lekar tumhe baho mein mohabbat karte.
Dekhte teri aankho mein nind ka khuma.r
Apni khoyi huyi nindo ki shikayat karte.
Aankho mein teri, apna aks dhundte,
Jaan se bhi jyada tujhe chaha karte.
Sirf ek dil hi toh tha wo b tere paas hai.
Raat raat bhar jag k kiski hifajat karte.
Mere majhab mein shirk haraam hai.
Warna dil-o-jaan se teri ebadat karte.
Chand ko sitaron se aur hume tum se mohabbat hain
Phoolo ko baharo se aur hume tum se mohabbat hain
Agar milo mahfil mein to humse nighahe jhuka lena
Koi bhi na samaj paye k hume tum se mohabbat hain
Tum sitaron pe likh dena hume tum se mohabbat hai
Ehsaas hai hume k tumhe bhi hum se pyar hain lekin
Ye mere ru-ba-ru kahna hume tum se mohabbat hai
Aapki Aankhen Uchi Hui To Dua Ban Gai,
Neechi Hui To Haya Ban Gai,,
Jo Jhuk Kar Uthi To Khata Ban Gai
Aur Uth Kar Jhuki To Ada Ban Gai…
Meri maangi huyi mannat ho tum,
Mere chehre ki chamak ho tum,
Meri Zindagi ki sabse anmol chiz,
Ya yu kahu mera sara jahan ho tum
Kaash Aapki Surat Itni Pyaari Na Hoti,
Kaash Aapse Mulakat Hamaari Na Hoti,,
Sapno Mein Hi Dekh Lete Hum Aapko,
To Aaj Milni Ki Itni Bekarari Na Hoti…!
The MOST CRITICAL MOMENT IN LIFE ”
when someone very special hurts u so deeply,
causes tears in ur eyes.
and ask,”What Happend”?
but u just reply,
Tute khwabon ko joda nahi jata,
Tujse rishta ab bhi toda nahi jata,
Pana tumko mumkin hi nahi,
Par yeh dil meri sunta hi nahi.
Tuje palko par bithane ko jee karta hai
Teri baaho se lipat jane ko jee karta h,
Khoobsurti ki inteha hain tu,
Tuje zindagi banane ko jee karta hain
Door jakar bhi hum door jaa na sakenge,
Kitna royenge hum bata na sakenge,,
Gham iska nahi ki aap mil na sakoge,
Dard is baat ka hoga ki hum aapko bhula na sakenge…
Aankhe To Pyar Mein Dill Ki Juban Hoti Hai,
Chahat To Sada Bejuban Hoti Hai,
Pyar Mein Dard Bhi Mile To Kya Ghabrana,
Suna Hai Dard Se Chahat Or Jawan Hoti Hai
Meri maangi huyi mannat ho tum,
Mere chehre ki chamak ho tum,
Meri Zindagi ki sabse anmol chiz,
Ya yu kahu mera sara jahan ho tum
Mang Liya Hai Tujko Rab Se,
Intezar Kar Raha Hu Me Tera Kab Se,
Ye Vada Raha Na Chhodunga Tera Me Sath,
Har Muskil Ghadi Me Thamunga Tera Me Sath.
Judai Ke Yeh Lamhe Kitne Ajeeb Hai
Tu Door Ho Ke Bhi Mere Kareeb Hai
Hum Ek Ho Kar Bhi Anjaan Hai
Ek Dooje Se Yeh Kaise Hamare Naseeb Hai
Us Rab Ne Diya Hai Saath Tumhara,
Aap Ke Pyar Se Kam Nahi Pyar Humara,
Koi Tamanna Nahi Hai Ek Khwahish Ke Siva,
Na Tum Rutho Na Kabhi Choote Ye Saath Humara.
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